Carlos Granados Podcast

Words Have Power: How Your Speech Shapes Your Reality | Alan

• Carlos Granados • Season 1 • Episode 42

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Carlos and Alan delve into the transformative power of community, faith, and intentional relationships. Together they explore spiritual journeys, personal growth, and the importance of surrounding yourself with people who support your values.

• Alan shares his faith journey, explaining how a college soccer teammate named Ramses showed him what living a Christian life looked like
• Both hosts discuss their transition from Catholicism to evangelical Christianity and finding meaningful church communities 
• Alan offers insights from his first year of marriage, emphasizing the importance of dating with intention
• The conversation explores family planning, with Alan sharing his desire for 4-6 children while emphasizing the importance of raising good people
• Both men discuss career paths, with Alan explaining his work in staffing and his marketing agency that helps construction-based businesses
• Alan shares wisdom on the power of words, referencing Proverbs 18:21 - "The tongue has the power of life and death"
• The hosts emphasize the importance of surrounding yourself with friends who match your values, integrity, and character

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Speaker 2

uh, I love doing this man, I enjoy doing this. Yeah, I saw this coming hey, but I did, I really did.

Speaker 1

I was like, yeah, two yappers same room an hour yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, no, hey, listen, I was telling my wife about it the other day two yappers same room. It's about to happen.

Speaker 2

Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to my channel and welcome back into another episode of the Carlos Granados podcast. Today we have another very special guest, but before I introduce you to him, I want to thank you guys for following me, for showing me some love on all the audio platforms, me for showing me some love and all the audio platforms. This is the first podcast episode since I've reached a million views, so hopefully you guys enjoy this episode as well. Don't forget, guys, that I have a lot of links on the, on the description of the video and also all the audio platforms that you can listen to. Uh, especially with the new product that I have and that I'm partnering with Go, check that out.

Speaker 2

I made a video, but I'm going to continue to do videos in the future. Thank you, guys, for showing me all the love. Don't forget to subscribe. Don't forget to like the video. Don't forget to share it with your family and friends. You know we're trying to make it happen, man, but without further ado. Alan, welcome to my channel, brother. How you doing, man? Hey, I appreciate the invite brother we've been.

Speaker 2

We've been trying to plan this for a while, and last time that was my bad now, you're good man, you're good, life happens, life lives right yeah, man, there's some times where I'm like I don't feel too good and then you know you're gonna have kind of have some energy in order for you to like start recording and do podcasting, you know. So that day I was like I wasn't. I'm not feeling the best today, man. Yeah, so that was my bad for canceling now, you're good, we're here here.

Speaker 1

We made it happen, man. That's what matters, right.

Speaker 2

How was the?

Speaker 1

drive to McGarren Dude.

Speaker 2

I mean 30 minutes down the street from me, yeah.

Speaker 1

Yeah, I didn't even know.

Speaker 2

I'm glad it's not too far. I have a friend that's coming next week. He said that the drive was like an hour. It's going to be like an hour and some change.

Speaker 1

And I'm like, are he'll be all right, he'll be all right, real one. He'll be all right, real. I appreciate you bro uh, is this one of the first times you've done a podcast before, or I want to say this is my third, but I will say this setup is one of the best. I'm not just saying that to like you're not, I'm not glazing you at all like this setup is.

Speaker 2

Yeah, it's nice I appreciate you, man thank you. I feel like it's a a nice little environment and also, you know, try to do it as professional as possible. Yeah, but I think in the future I'm I'm gonna invest more into it. I think this is like the starting setup and then we're gonna sure eventually gotta willing.

Speaker 1

If this is the bones, this is crazy what it's gonna look like afterwards you're gonna have a studio.

Speaker 2

I just got the studio, bro. I might need more cameras, you know, set up, we'll see. Yeah, we'll entertain different angles that's like an impulsive type of exactly man, different angles and and hopefully we'll see if I get a different desk um, so, when more people come along and more, more mics and stuff like that. But speaking about god bro, um, yeah, you, you go to a big church, just like how I do. I go to victory world church. What church is it? Do you go to free chapel?

Finding Faith and Church Community

Speaker 1

how is that?

Speaker 2

how was your experience with that?

Speaker 1

it's great. I mean, I started going when I got saved in 2019 yo, I got saved in 2019.

Speaker 2

No, okay, one month one month, november okay september oh, dang, you made it.

Speaker 1

You made it before me, bro, I'm just quick no, I'm kidding. How was that? How was your experience there? It's amazing, man. I mean, this is, this is my thing, right? Yeah, every church is different sizes yeah um, and I? I don't bash any small ones, I don't bash any big ones. In my opinion, if you don't actually go to the church, how do you know how the people operate? Right? Do you mean? Yeah, how?

Speaker 2

do you know if?

Speaker 1

god is actually there speaking. Yeah, you know, I mean yeah, um, so that's my big thing, like I'm sure, even even at victory there's criticism yeah, right, when, when, any church is big yeah why is it? There's always yeah, exactly why is it?

Speaker 2

yeah, yeah, what's going on? That it's big, you know, something's happening, something's working yeah yeah, I, I was um, I've been told that before.

Speaker 2

Yeah, I've been told that. You know why. You know why is it big? Or sometimes people feel uncomfortable because of the size of the church, right, which understandably, so you know, it can be intimidating for somebody that's trying to go into a new church and, like you, see this whole bunch of people and it's like, do I actually belong here? You know what I mean. I think that breaking that barrier for me, especially at Victory, took me a while. It took me some time to go to a big church, but once I got involved with the church I was like man, I was missing out on so much.

Speaker 1

You know what I mean. Well, and that's the thing, right, I think I was talking to a guy that I serve in a nonprofit like it's his nonprofit, and we were talking about churches, specifically this topic. That's probably what kind of triggered it last week and he specifically said, like you know, he doesn't like certain types of churches, whatever, whatever. Okay, but the conversation led to let's be real, not everyone that goes to church participates, yeah, gets involved but once they do get involved, they start to make connection yeah it doesn't have to be a small church.

Speaker 2

Yeah, it could be a big one and the bible talks about community all the time. So going to church and being active start to make connection.

Speaker 1

Yeah, it doesn't have to be a small church.

Speaker 2

Yeah, it could be a big one, and the Bible talks about community all the time. So going to church and being active, I mean it's one of the most beautiful things you can find. You just, you know, every Sunday or every, or whenever you go to church, you just feel good. Yeah, you know, you feel connected. Oh, yeah, and I've had that I think that's helped me out in the last several years Um with the small group that I had, um back in the day is just the connection that you feel, um, you feel more love. You know you always speak about how god is love and you feel that love ready. And then I feel like you're more comfortable with that, but you that you go to church. Where is that church located?

Speaker 2

I don't know if gainesville, gainesville, georgia oh, yeah, I might need to go check that out. Man, I'm not opposed to that, I haven't. I haven't been to that before, though yeah, it's big, I'm not. Yeah, I might need to go check that out man, I'm not opposed to that.

Speaker 1

I haven't. I haven't been to that before, though.

Speaker 2

Yeah, it's big, I'm not.

Speaker 1

Yeah, I'm not gonna lie to you. Yeah, it's big like all the high schools around.

Speaker 2

It will have their graduation at that school oh yeah, oh, they don't go to the gas south, I mean oh well, because it's a distance.

Speaker 1

Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, but I understand yo, that's actually pretty cool yeah um, but talk to me about how.

Speaker 2

So 2019? Was there something specific that led you to yeah, to getting so saved, or how did this go about?

Speaker 1

yeah, so funny story guy that I met my freshman year of college. Okay, I played college soccer. He was on the team and you play college soccer as well? Yeah, oh, for real, what's cool I wasn't amazing, I'm gonna be honest, but you played, I played.

Speaker 1

So I played juco for a year and then I went to d2 after that oh, okay and so the first year that I went was a juco school in the middle of nowhere, like if I tell you the name you're gonna be like, is that even a school? It's called andrew college and I thought that I would have known him.

Speaker 2

I thought my ball knowledge it's in the middle of nowhere georgia.

Speaker 1

Like okay, there's gnats everywhere. Like it's, it's, yeah, anyways it's one of those, yeah, and we went to the school. He actually had won state championship with his high school before he went there, so him and three other guys like they. They crushed it in high school right so we went there and I knew of them because they were rivals. They were in the same region, gotcha um anyways, met this guy named Ramses.

Speaker 2

Okay, Shout out Ramses.

Speaker 1

Shout out to Ramses. He was sowing seeds into my future, into me being saved. He was a vessel for God, even back then, he was one of those guys that never did anything wrong.

Speaker 2

Does that make sense? I got you. He was following.

Speaker 1

Just super narrow path Right Does that make sense I got you. He was following Just super narrow path Right, and so he would always bring up God to me in situations where I didn't really have anyone to counsel me.

Speaker 2

Right.

Speaker 1

Nothing against my parents but when you're in college, sometimes you don't make the best decisions, right, right, and so he was one of those guys that was always on the narrow path.

Speaker 1

Right, I'm not perfect yeah, he wasn't perfect, but he was a great example of what a Christian man looks like, and so him, with a combination of two or three other Christians that actually go to Free Chapel, just kept sowing seeds. Hey, this is what the word of God says. Hey, this is what the word of God says. And I was raised Catholic. I don't know, were you raised Catholic?

Speaker 2

I was raised Catholic Crazy.

Speaker 1

I was raised Catholic. I don't know, were you raised Catholic? I was raised Catholic.

Speaker 2

Crazy, crazy I'm a communion first communion and confirmation and all that.

Speaker 1

Really. Yeah, I did so. I did the Primera Comunión and then after that I was like my mom said it's your decision. I was like, all right, I'm not going to go to church. Oh, your brother's born, so you know he doesn't want to sit still, so we're not going to go.

Speaker 2

Oh gotcha.

Speaker 1

So when it came to being a Catholic, I was very exposed to a very lukewarm belief system. Very lukewarm belief system. When I kept meeting christians people like ramses, yeah people like chris, people like jason right I was attracted to that like a radical belief. That's good damn you know I mean right, I think. I think that's what gets people to want to go through the doors is like a radical belief in something. Yeah, and then like okay, why is he so radical about this belief?

Speaker 2

And so eventually, you wanted to like keep finding out. Um, what was it that you know? This man was, you know, radiant, but did so? Did it lead you to? Did him? Um, being that way led you to go into church, or how did that work to the point where you were like I need to? So I think it was a combination of my influence.

Speaker 1

All were going to church and I was like, dude, these guys are either married or are in a, you know, a relationship. That is serious, like I want to operate like these men, and they all seem to be going to a church. They're all plugged into God. I know of God because my mom used to read Bible stories to me Amazing, by the way but I didn't know God for myself and I said so I need to be plugged in, I need to know Jesus Christ myself. So after maybe the second invite, they were like, hey, you should come. And I'm like I'm already going to be awake, let's go, you know what I mean.

Speaker 2

I'm already going to be awake.

Speaker 1

What's my excuse? I think someone had asked me a question. It was kind of like would you? It was kind of a radical question. It was like would you die? Would you be okay with dying and knowing that you could have had the opportunity to build a relationship with God?

Speaker 2

Right.

Speaker 1

Or do you want to go ahead and just take the risk, get to know Him now and learn the Word of God, because all of the Word of God that I was learning was from social media but what? Someone else was telling me I was not reading the Bible for myself, and so I said, okay, if I can go to a church and go weekly and just be around other believers, what does the word say? More than two or three believers come together, are the church Right? And that's what led me.

Speaker 2

Dude, that's really good man. I feel like that's like prime example of what the love of God is right. Sometimes you just you do things and you follow his path and people ask questions just like yourself. You're asking questions why is it that they're this way, like what is happening here, that I'm missing out on? You know right, and then you get to experience it yourself. That's beautiful. Yeah, that that's really good. I had a totally different experience on how that led and how that went down. But I was christian, I was catholic myself for a very long time. Yeah and um, eventually a lot of things happened within my family. They became Christian, but they for a while I'd never really joined them and you know they were going to a different type of, you know Christian, like the old school, like a Pentecostal type of church right, and I feel like I never fully was comfortable there, but I attended every now and then and I always respect the church and the Lord, you know.

Speaker 1

Right.

Speaker 2

But it wasn't until 2019 where, like I finally said, you, know what I gotta give my life to Christ and things change in my life. I think a lot of things needed to change and I did and I ended up getting baptized in 2021. You're lying.

Speaker 1

Did you too. I wanna say that was the exact year that I got baptized, cause that following year no no no, is it 2021 or 2022? Because?

Speaker 2

that following year? No, no, no, Is it 2021 or 2022?

Speaker 1

I have to look back because I have the video and it was on YouTube because there's so many people. I was more nervous because there was 4,000 plus people watching. I want to say it was either 2022 or 2021, because it was right after my now wife got saved. Or not got saved, but went and got baptized.

Speaker 2

So I was going to ask you about that as well. So did you guys meet at church?

Speaker 1

So we had the same friends. She's been going to that church since she was a teenager.

Speaker 2

Wow, it's been a minute yeah.

Speaker 1

Yeah, I used to go at 9am. She used to go at 11. You know how the story goes. Now we go at 11.

Speaker 2

Yeah, now she runs the show. Yo, that's beautiful man. So you guys started talking and eventually you got married last year, right?

Speaker 1

yeah, yeah, it'll be a year in august the.

Speaker 2

The wedding pictures that you have are so dope. No, was that an ai background or?

Speaker 1

no, no, that's actually in gainesville, that's a back actual background.

Speaker 2

That's the background looks unreal bro, people thought we actually had our wedding there?

Speaker 1

we didn't. It's bernal bernal university, oh that's.

Speaker 2

I've heard of that. Yeah, yeah, on commercials or something like that it's not cheap for a reason oh yeah, that place looks unreal, is it?

Speaker 1

private, I want to say it is oh, I want to say it's, uh, women only school. I want to say it is, but not 100. Yeah, I got you.

Speaker 2

No, I've heard of it on like uh commercials, I think before um or something like that. But I dude, it looks ai, it's so dope, it looks so ai. I was like, yeah, I'm gonna ask him about that.

Speaker 1

On the book hey, I'll give you the, the, the instagram to that photographer. But she's unreal, she's cool, she's good. Yeah, I think she stayed an extra like hour just to make sure she got all the pictures my wife wanted. Oh dang dang bro.

Speaker 2

How was that? How was that process? Man? Um you going, how, how, how has your first year of marriage gone?

Speaker 1

So I think it was. It was exactly what I expected, to a certain extent.

Speaker 2

Yeah.

Speaker 1

Obviously there there's going to be disagreements. There's going to be um places where we don't agree, places where we do agree. I think it was, and I told her this. The past three years have been such a blessing because I know you were the right person, damn Three months in. We were friends for four years before we started dating. Okay, almost five, gotcha, so I've known her for the past.

Speaker 1

What seven years it's been a minute, but as of what, as of yesterday, would be three years that we were dating, dating. I say this because we're still dating, right, in my opinion, once you get married now, it's a new chapter of dating.

Speaker 2

So what do you feel would be like the hardest challenges that you face so far? Like within the first year that you feel like was is it the argument? The disagreements that you have getting to know each other better now that you live with each other?

Speaker 1

Yeah, I would say just the that we have different habits, right? There was a saying I was talking to a client, a potential client, earlier this morning and he said the first 13 to 15 years are the foundation of your behaviors and your habits Of your life. Or like in marriage, once you get into adulthood. I got you Okay, and so I'd still consider myself a youngin, right? It's still young, right? How?

Speaker 2

are you?

Speaker 1

We're still in the 20s side. Oh, you're chilling, you're still vibing. I told my wife I'm turning 27 again this year, 28.

Speaker 2

Oh, dang man, I've turned 27 again this year, 28. Oh, dang man, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, you're almost meeting me on this side. Yeah, it's all good.

Speaker 1

Yeah, I would say, the most challenging would be that when we got together and lived under the same roof we didn't operate the same, which is normal in my opinion.

Speaker 2

It's normal.

Speaker 1

It's two different lives, two different habits, two different likes and dislikes. Yeah right, I want it to be 68 degrees, she wants it to be 75. You're not relating with me at all right now.

Speaker 2

I'm not, because I live on my, I live alone down here and then, oh, it's too hot or it's too cold.

Speaker 1

I don't have to ask nobody for nothing yo, that's funny yeah so he had a meat in the middle so the little, what is it?

Speaker 2

71 or something?

Speaker 1

71, 72 yeah, yeah, yeah. So you best believe.

Speaker 2

When I get home, I'm basically taking off every part of my clothing that you can, so I can be, so you can be good, yeah, I get I get warm way way too easy.

Speaker 1

Okay, yeah, like I'm the guy that if I wear a dress shirt, I'm not wearing an undershirt. You know what?

Speaker 2

I'm kind of mad now that you didn't invite me to your wedding. I love weddings, man brother. You know what's funny? Yeah, I love weddings, do you? Yeah, I haven't gotten married yet, but I love weddings yeah, yeah, I love going to weddings.

Speaker 2

I think it's it's the fact that you know you get to enjoy, you know, somebody's happiness, it's all about them so you can still get in, you can enjoy with the rest of the people. You get to dance, eat, you know it's just a good vibe. Then there's some sometimes you meet single, single women that you go hey, you know how you doing that's to meet you. You know it's a good time.

Speaker 1

It's a single man.

Speaker 2

I love weddings, man, it's a good time.

Speaker 1

I love it. I got you, I got you, I got. I'll invite you to my friend's wedding Cause I'm not getting married again, I hope not.

Speaker 2

I hope not. Hey to the 10 year man you know 10 year I got you. Wait, what is it? What is the numbers at a wedding? Do you know 10, 25, 50 or something like that?

Speaker 1

No idea. My guess would be 10, 25 and 50. Okay, like my friend um who unfortunately passed away um he did he did like a. He did a 50 anniversary of his parents. That was awesome, yeah dang, that was incredible.

Speaker 2

50 50 I mean that's wild man, yeah their oldest was 53.

Speaker 1

Wow, yeah, you don't have any kids here, right?

Speaker 2

not yet you want to yeah, for sure this is my belief.

Speaker 1

This is do you want a lot?

Speaker 2

I think I want to see what you okay, no, I used to want a lot, and now that I experienced life a little bit more, I'd say one, maybe two, and I think that I'll be good for me. Okay, I don't want a lot, okay not anymore.

Speaker 1

Well, hear me out, because we're completely different okay, let's hear it we started at wanting six, between four to six. Wait, wait both of you guys want an agreement with this 100% Two, four, six. Now the reason why and my reason is different than hers she loves kids.

Speaker 2

Okay, right, I'm preparing myself. That's why I took a deep breath.

Speaker 1

Hey, listen, listen listen, if you get a wife that wants four kids, you better get with the program. Oh, no, but um. The reason why is because for me, and my belief is, more good people should have more kids oh, I haven't heard because the ripple effect of those kids, kids right brings more light brings more people to the world in my opinion right that that's good I know it's a.

Speaker 1

it's a different type of point of view. It's fair, though, you know that's fair so think about that before you go to sleep tonight. Wait, so six to four. Four to six, yeah, yeah, yeah, so four or six. So if we end up having five, we have to get to six.

Speaker 2

Dang, you're trying to build a whole basketball team here, bro 7v7.

Speaker 1

Hey, 7v7, bro, 77 hey 77.

Speaker 2

What's that little soccer team? You'll be the goalie.

Speaker 1

I got that age probably I can see you like that. I see your wife supporting in the background. You know cheering up saying that's good, yeah, yeah dude, that's all.

Speaker 2

That's a crazy amount of kids. I used to think I would, I would, I wouldn't want four. Yeah, but you know, live hits and then you're just like I don't know if I'm comfortable with four, I don't know about that one no more.

Speaker 1

Hey, if you get triplets on the first one, I'm going to motivate you to get the fourth.

Speaker 2

I will remember you if that were to happen to me.

Speaker 1

Hey, I'm going to pray for it.

Speaker 2

I'd be like. You want to have kids, for sure. Yeah, how do you feel about adopting kids? I'm pretty pro adoption. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1

I think obviously you have to be, you have to be, in my opinion, you have to be a strong father figure, right? Um, there has to be both in the picture, in my opinion.

Speaker 2

Right.

Speaker 1

Right Cause. I was raised in a single parent household until I was about 12 or 13. Mom or dad, just my mom.

Speaker 2

Okay.

Speaker 1

And then my stepdad came to the picture around that same time. But it was a perfect time, in my opinion, for like to pivot on. Okay, who am I going to be as a man? Gotcha right, because in my opinion, when you're 13 14, there's a lot of uh, temptations or things that influences, influences yeah that if you don't have a good father figure, you're not making good choices what's the what's the saying?

Speaker 2

right voices, right choices, so yeah, yeah, that's good bro uh, I think I'm pro adoption myself too, but I don't know at what age I would try to adopt a kid if I were ever to like, if we were to have, you know, if you were definitely financial stable, like you know stability, if you had that I would think I would want one. I just don't know. You know just the fact that changing a kid's life, you know forever, could be one of the biggest blessings, you know 100%. Yeah, yeah, I feel that way. Well, and you're a faith-based man. Amen, brother.

Speaker 1

Hey, so what's?

Speaker 2

going to happen, that ripple?

Speaker 1

effect of that kid is going to be impacted.

Speaker 2

Go ahead and preach, man.

Speaker 1

Go ahead, take it out of the pocket, do what you got to do.

Speaker 2

No, that's good, I think you're right and just changing. In that sense, I think it's just be. You know, you never know what that kid can become, you know, I think that's like that's a blessing and you just you never know where they could have went if you didn't do that and make those choices. You know what I mean. What's your wife's name, by the way? So we can veronica?

Speaker 2

veronica shout out to veronica man, you got yourself a good man and I'm hearing that you're a great wife, so turn me up, let me know how that goes and we come back into the podcast and we'll run that back. The same thing, how's it?

Speaker 1

going now. What has changed?

Speaker 2

But one last thing on that topic Is there any advice that you would have for single people, younger people that are working towards marriage, that are single Christians, that are working to finding their spouse, uh, their significant other, and then you know, maybe some advice into, into how to carry that that helped you or maybe that you could have avoided or maybe you could have done better? In that sense, is there anything that you feel like you want to share to them, or yeah, um, I think, and obviously I'm a pro at one year, right obviously in marriage, but I'm joking.

Speaker 2

I'm joking, no, you know what I mean. No, no.

Speaker 1

I think what helped us I'll speak on what helped us is we dated to marry, so three months into dating, I already know intention intentionally dating. If after the first date you know this is not the one, don't sell yourself on getting a second date. That's just my opinion. And then the second thing is marriage counseling.

Speaker 2

Within the church Before getting married yeah, within the church getting married yeah, within the church getting marriage counseling.

Speaker 1

Um, I'm not against something outside the church, but that's our experience yeah it added so much value to understand how we operate right.

Speaker 2

And when you say, um, the first part, um, what was the first one that you said? What was the? I had a question on that so intention to marry?

Speaker 1

yeah, so how?

Speaker 2

do you know that they're the one? How did you what you, what she make you feel like? How did you know that? Yeah, did you feel like that lord spoke to you, spoke to you and was like this is it?

Speaker 1

yeah, so for me, I had some non-negotiables that I wrote out, okay um of something that I was looking for in a woman, obviously maybe not a pro 31 woman. Um, I think the other thing was her own ambition, like she wanted to to accomplish something, and her big thing was impact. Her big thing was impact, that's my big thing. So, um, and then she, just she wasn't afraid to be bold and straight up. Now, I don't know how people operate when it comes to you know who they're looking for but, I, wanted someone that was direct.

Speaker 1

Yeah, because I'm not a good guesser, unless it's on a test.

Speaker 2

I'm not a good guesser, gotcha.

Speaker 1

How you feel or how that made you feel. Let's talk about it Correct, but if you can tell me straight up, we're going to be on the same page most of the time.

Speaker 2

You know what's crazy I've had that happened where I need somebody that knows how to communicate, um, or at least tries to communicate with me. I feel like I'm also a straightforward person that all I ask is just talk to me, you know, just let me know how you feel. But when I tell you something, don't think that I'm telling you something else. You know I'm. I'm telling you what, what I'm feeling and what I'm thinking. There's nothing else behind that. You know, and like, sometimes that is that has been missed and the people that I've been interested in, and that's the reason. And then the second part, the ambition part. What do you want to accomplish in life? Like, what is it that you want to leave behind? And I don't mean just assets, I mean like, what do you want to leave with the life that you did? The?

Speaker 2

people that you touched the people that you like. That is legacy to me and either how are you going to either help me facilitate that or how are you going to do that on your own and I can help you do that on your end. How do we work that? And if you don't have no ambition and again, I don't want to make it sound like ambition out of greed or like just wanting more, me, me, me, no, it's just how do you change people's lives, man, what did you do on this earth that, when you leave, your family and friends and other people can be proud of you, that of the type of person you were, the type of people you affected?

Speaker 2

That is what, like, drives me right. The money, the, the, how, all that stuff. It's great and all because you, you can essentially help more people with that, you can be a blessing to other, but it's not the end. All be all. You know, there's things that carry on farther. When you live this earth, when you check out and that's what I look for and somebody that doesn't have that, it just does something to me that I'm like you can be great, you can do all of this, but if you don't have those things, I'm just like bro.

Speaker 1

Well, and you'll agree with me, right that number one, if you don't have a relationship with God. Of course, right, because if I'm dragging you to church, what are we doing? No, no, no, no, no.

Speaker 2

That is a huge number.

Speaker 1

That's the number one. That's the base. Yeah, that's the base. That's the foundation. A hundred percent, yeah.

Speaker 2

A hundred percent, yeah, and it's funny.

Speaker 1

Ramses told me that when I was dating somebody else he told me he said the base should be she's a Christian woman, she has a relationship with God. I didn't want to hear it. Oh, for real, in that moment I did not want to hear it.

Speaker 2

What'd you, what'd you say or what'd you think?

Speaker 1

I was like, yeah, I think that's good, uh, but I'm in a relationship right now and she's not so like you know what I mean, Like I didn't want to hear it because it didn't line up with my current situation. But at the end of the day, the truth is the truth.

Speaker 2

Right.

Speaker 1

At least for me.

Speaker 2

it just made more sense for me to find someone that was already a believer, and you know, sometimes you've got to search for the truth yourself, the reason I say the word truth and, like you mentioned, I've had here people, a cousin and another friend that joined cults because they believe that you know that was the truth and like the word of God and stuff like that.

Speaker 1

And we got really deep into it, bro.

Speaker 2

So you got to, definitely got to make sure, because they're you know the devil is deceiving and he will come after you. Yeah, so the fact that they were going through all that and struggling and stuff like that, I was like you know what? There's a lot of truth that people can believe. They're true, but there's only one true right, you know what I mean.

Speaker 2

I think that's also searching for that. It's also something that you have to search for yourself. Don't let anybody tell you go experience it feel it. Read it right. That's where it comes from. Yeah, that was good man that this is.

Speaker 1

I'm hyped now in this conversation, man, so what you said cult, what was that like was? So it was, uh, not to get in the weeds into it because they could probably check out the. Would you remember what episode it was?

Speaker 2

I don't remember the episode, but I can leave the link to the description below if you guys want to check it out. There's two episodes. So my cousin uh was part of the. I think it's sh Jong-ji. It's a Korean cult.

Speaker 1

Okay.

Speaker 2

And they have different names over time because they change it. But your cousin's, not Asian.

Speaker 1

No he's Hispanic. Okay, I'm trying to. Yeah, cool, ask questions.

Speaker 2

So he's Hispanic and he was going through a time, a period in his life where he needed people and community and that's what it would lead to. But eventually he ended up finding out a lot of truths. Right, the classmates that he was attending with they were not really classmates, they were just there to pretend they were classmates, but they were essentially like kind of babying him into the system Does that make sense? But they weren't teaching the word of God, because eventually they started teaching him that God was a human being, like that's here now on earth at the moment, but they were using Bible scriptures to line up their beliefs. Wow, so that's what I'm telling you. The truth can be. You got to find out for yourself.

Speaker 2

And then he warned me about something he said these people, when you post this out, they will come to your channel and they would deny everything that you, they like that you were saying right now. They would go in there and say that this is the truth, that not that you know they believe this. This is a way, all of that, because they, they have a team of people that purposely goes online and like rebukes. All of that, I guess, in that sense, denies it. You know, and I've had those comments and I've sent some of those to to to my cousin and that cousin. When I posted the video, the podcast, another friend came about and she was like I was a leader in that cult. I said, oh no, you weren't. I was like, yeah, she told me all about it and I was like it's the same cult. So she came on the podcast and I had a bowl for them. So I had a recruiter and who was like, who took the classes and went deep into the cult?

Speaker 2

yeah and I had a basic someone who was getting into that point, and we all had a discussion here in my podcast. I tell you what, though, and I'm gonna be honest, I feel like that that podcast because this has to do with spiritual warfare. I feel uneasy about that one. I feel uneasy about that yeah, and I typically don't feel.

Speaker 2

I don't feel that, um, when I do podcasting because it's, you know, conversation, we talk about god and a lot of different things, but that one, because we are attacking, we're fighting back. You know, we're rebuking a lot of things that the enemies try to put on people and he has some people deceived, unfortunately. At night I felt uneasy man. I was like I don't know if I want to release this because, like I could just feel it, bro, because I knew the conversations we had, you know.

Speaker 1

Yeah.

Speaker 2

And I said, lord, this is for you and I want people to have their eyes open with what just happened here. You know it was. This is not for clickbait, this is not for clout. I, you know, we want people to share their experience and hopefully some people, can you know, open their eyes. And we put that video up and it actually did really well on youtube. It did well on instagram.

Speaker 2

People still to this day they find I'm sorry, on tiktok and and youtube shorts, because I post all my content on there, so all the shorts and videos, they come to the, to the videos now and they come and like one lady came hey, can you help me? My, my daughter's in here, like in this cold, and she doesn't see it and, like you know, people are lying to her. So I sent it to my other friend. I was like, hey, listen, this lady needs help. Like would you mind helping? Because she was part of you know the situation. She can help her better on how to get out of that or what the experience was like. So we were able to help people.

Speaker 2

That's crazy, we were able to help people to this day.

Speaker 1

That's crazy.

Speaker 2

Yeah, and we might do a follow-up eventually. But the video itself on YouTube has done, because people come and search and every time they get lied to they know the name of the cult time they get lied to or they know the name of the cult, because they don't give you the name but there is a name to that cult and when they find it online they go. They probably find my video in the podcast, um, and also the videos on yeah, we did a lot of thousands of views on on shorts and and tiktok on that that's crazy still doing them.

Speaker 2

That's crazy, your cousin yeah, micah, and and you know what, he came and he's. He studied the word of God so much he's really good at understanding it. He's younger than me, he's like 20. And he really got into it and now he's good. He saw the light, he came out of it and that's the reason he had the guts to talk about it. He came on the podcast, that's awesome, we're doing something.

Speaker 1

good man. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2

We doing something good. Yeah, yeah, you know we're doing something good. But uh, transitioning into into what you do, bro, I was, I'm still wondering how, what you do in life and as your work, yeah, um, how, how that's going and what exactly do you do? Because I'm still a little confused, but I want you to explain. I'm gonna ask questions, so it can be, just, you know, people can gather what's going on. So tell me, tell me a little bit more about what's going on and how'd you get into all that?

Speaker 1

Sure, yeah. So I'll kind of start with how I got into it. Um, so, full-time, I work for a staffing agency, right? So what does that mean? Think about it's a recruiting firm that helps hire talent, whether that's contract to hire or direct hire.

Speaker 1

Okay, right, and a lot of times we might already have the candidates ready. They're just in our system. We plug and play Gotcha. We connect them to the companies. My job is to sell two companies on why we can help them find that right talent, Right. Okay, you know, some of our recruiters have 25 years of experience. Some of them have 10. I think that's the difference between us versus you know.

Speaker 2

I'm not going to name other companies but we all know these other companies.

Speaker 1

That's why they're in my opinion. Their tenure on average is a year and a half two years.

Speaker 2

Oh, gotcha, yeah, Gotcha.

Speaker 1

Cause the turnover in terms of tenure is really high. Right, right, because really high right.

Speaker 2

Right, because some recruiters just don't stick with it. That makes sense. But yeah, that's what I do full-time. Outside of that, I started a marketing agency six years ago, alongside what you do, or this is correct, correct, okay, correct.

Speaker 1

This is separate completely of what I do um, and it's actually the reason why my wife no longer is a recruiter because she's doing that correct. She's taking care of that, okay, yeah and obviously I've been teaching her along the way.

Speaker 2

She's just really good at learning fast so what kind of marketing company is this is like? Is this specific? Like yeah, you're a brand or so.

Speaker 1

So the, the agency's niche, if I had to break it down, is construction based businesses so think of anything that's labor focused, from roofing to carpet, concrete, we've got a countertops business.

Speaker 1

So it's everything that you can think of that you know a family member or a friend, right? Mostly, these businesses are owned by people that are fine with getting their hands dirty and they're really good at building their craft right. Think blue collar Okay, Anything blue collar business. They're really good at doing their craft, but they're not very good at spreading the word of what they do.

Speaker 2

I see what you're saying, so you help promote that Correct. And in what sense do you build uh like, um like, for example, their logo or stuff like? That or do you just they have everything ready and you expose them out there?

Speaker 1

So it depends on their need, right.

Speaker 2

Like example.

Speaker 1

I'll give you a specific example.

Speaker 1

There was one person that came as a referral and he runs a landscaping company. Okay, I asked him what his budget was and, quite honestly, he just he's just getting started again. He can't afford us, which is okay. I'm not going to force him to. You know what I mean? Like I'm, I'm. I'm not the type of person to sell someone on something that's going to hurt their business long-term. That's good, bro, right? Yeah, I want to bring my Christian ethics, morals and ways of doing things over to the business, and I've always tried to do that, and so I told him. I said, hey, you can't afford me right now, but I still want to help you. These are your options. I know you said you want a logo. Let's do the logo, Right. I know you want to do your Google business. I'm not going to charge you for it. I know the average agency is going to charge you for it. It takes 10 seconds. Let's do it right now. That's good. Does that make sense?

Speaker 2

Yeah.

Speaker 1

Versus a company that I have on a month to month. We're helping on the different sides of things, but it might be social media marketing, it might be Google ads, it might be paid ads, that's what I do, yeah, okay. And then I have a. I have a person that I outsource when it comes to websites, Because I'm not going to pretend to say To build websites.

Speaker 1

Correct, because I'm not going to pretend to know the elaborate websites. Can I build one? Yes, can I build the elaborate ones, like Gary? No, right, you know what to do better.

Speaker 2

It's like doing your taxes Well. For me, I prefer to do it with somebody that does do my taxes than me doing my taxes. I know why I got you, I got you, so you do the whole scope of essentially marketing that company.

Speaker 1

Yeah, outside of maybe SEO, but yeah.

Speaker 2

How do you spread your?

Speaker 1

word. So a lot of my clients have came from referrals. Wow, referrals. Okay, so you're probably doing a good job. Referrals and then cold Instagram DMs.

Speaker 2

Okay, yeah.

Speaker 1

Got you Just reaching out.

Speaker 2

Yeah. If at least there's something great if it doesn't got you. I deal with seo through youtube. Yeah, yeah, I have a. They have a little something called uh tube, buddy okay, it helps you it helps you with the trends and what's going on and all that stuff yeah, yeah, have you seen a big change in like?

Speaker 1

well, it helps it helps.

Speaker 2

It's easier to um, for example, they have a title generator. So you think you put a title of what you think should be, but they generate the title and it helps you generate titles. It helps you. What tags right? Youtube gives you an option to to have tags and it gives you a lot of different tags that people may be using or searching. So you just put that tag and when they search it on the search bar, your video can come up a little bit more. Okay, you know, I haven't gotten perfect at it. I actually had people reach out to me on it, but I'm like no, it's fine, I don't live off of this. This is my passion, this is my hobby. Sure, but I have a. You know I concentrate on my full-time job, but that TubeBuddy thing actually helps me a lot in that sense a base so you can at least compete with, like other videos and stuff on what you're doing. Right.

Speaker 1

You know what I mean. Yeah, yeah and to your point. That's why I focus on my full-time job Right and then outside. In case someone wasn't.

Speaker 2

Yeah.

Speaker 1

And then outside of that my wife has kind of taken over. It's replaced her income, thankfully, thank God. That all comes all from God and so like ultimately, ultimately, that as a whole is our focus, like just adding value to businesses.

Speaker 2

That's good. To be honest, I feel like there is a good niche for good people in that space. Yeah, I feel like there's a lot of people that need help, especially people who don't know much about growth business or they're not tech savvy, where they can work on logos and things of that nature or, like you know, Google and all that stuff. It seems simple, yeah, but to some people it's not.

Speaker 1

They just know how to do the work and they know how to do it well and they need help with that sense. Well, and a lot of people make a living that way which is amazing, yeah, amazing. But in my opinion, when people start a business, especially that type of business, once you get older, your body does not want to keep doing those movements.

Speaker 2

Yeah.

Speaker 1

Unless you become like a foreman of some kind where you're telling people what to do. It becomes there's. There's going to be a timeline there.

Speaker 2

In my opinion, no, you're right, I mean, dude, when I went to so my stepdad owns a painting company. And when, when I went to work for him for a summer, brother, I said you know what? I'm graduating college and I'm getting this job. But you know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah, I went. I went to. Uh, we, we had long hours, man, I was getting paid like 10 bucks an hour and I remember working like paid bank.

Speaker 2

you were like yes, I'm, I'm getting paid At that time I was like this is the highest I've ever been paid Like this is dope. But when I was putting those 60, 70-hour weeks, I said when I'm riding in that van, you know, heading back home, I'm like, yeah, I don't see myself doing this for the rest of my life. I don't think this is it for me, you know.

Speaker 2

But I appreciate the experience and the drive that it added to me, but I said damn, I ain't doing this. So I understand what you mean. I don't think they can do this forever. Your body gives out Human nature. Father time, it's undefeated. Kicks in.

Speaker 1

Correct, so I get you on that. So if you have a big enough business to delegate some of those things, it's only going to add value to you and your family.

Speaker 2

Yeah.

Speaker 1

Because you're going to spend more time with your family and you're going to be working on the business, not in Gotcha.

Speaker 2

That's good.

Speaker 1

Yeah.

Speaker 2

So keep going about your staffing. Yeah, so do you have a website for what you do, or do you work?

Speaker 1

under a company. So I work under a company, okay, yeah.

Speaker 2

I want website for your, for what you do, or do you work under a?

Speaker 1

company, so I work under a company, okay, yeah, yeah, I want to say they've got, uh, two thousand plus employees, okay and you're one of them. Correct, all right, correct and now, ultimately, I want to say we're the largest on the industrial side, so they built their reputation on blue collar, but I'm on the white collar side of things when it comes to bringing in job orders is.

Speaker 2

Is it like a lot of administration?

Speaker 1

In terms of what do you?

Speaker 2

mean Administration work like admin, work, um for office jobs and things of that nature, yes, or is there like specialties, a hundred percent.

Speaker 1

So it might be admin and administrator all the way up to it could be a CFO or a senior HR manager and do you get paid by the people, the companies that hire the employee? Correct, I get a percentage, yeah.

Speaker 2

Got you. Yeah, that's what I wanted to know, cause I know sometimes it's different. Sometimes the employee pays, like, some of their salary to the people that help them get I don't know. I heard something like that in the past. I don't think it works like that, though.

Speaker 1

No, not that I know of. Um well, and my wife was in the space for four years. So, a lot of the understanding that I gotten over the years is literally from asking her questions.

Speaker 1

Um, like, think about it this way though Like a lot of people go the temp to hire route. If it's a lower position example, if it's a entry level HR coordinator, that's probably going to be temp to hire, right. But a CFO or HR manager or sales manager, that might be a person that's down yeah, down in their career, so they're going to might go, they might go the direct hire approach where they pay one fee Because most people that are more are more, you know, tenured in their career.

Speaker 1

like we were talking earlier, they don't want to go for a contracting job yeah, that is.

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Speaker 2

That is very true, though it's funny. It's funny because some I've I've worked with contractors in the past, due to the the nature of my job, sure, and some people actually remain just in contracting roles and I don't know why that is. Yeah, I think maybe because they're so deep in the game where they know different contracting companies and they can just jump from one to another that might be.

Speaker 1

You know what I'm saying. I know one guy that's a product manager. Yeah, and he likes it. Yeah, he's a different project every year. That's why a company every year, yeah that.

Speaker 2

That's crazy, though, because, like, your job depends on you, know it's crazy a contract. Yeah, that's that I mean, but I, I get it, I get you know, it's crazy. A contract, yeah, I mean, but I get it, I get it, you know. And to get experience too. I feel like contracting helps you get some experience in and then again you can, you know, run it back and apply more to that. Yeah.

Speaker 1

Well, and some people they especially when they get out of college. Especially in the ecosystem and economy that we live in now, people just want a chance. So if they get a contracting job that in a year or nine months becomes permanent, not only are they probably going to get a pay increase, but they already have a good feel of the company as a whole, or at least the possibility that they can get hired, you know, because that's still a blessing, I think possibilities and just doors opening, that's a blessing.

Speaker 2

So you have a website that I'm going to add it to the job descriptions so people can check it out, and I'm going to put your Instagram as well.

Speaker 1

Yeah.

Speaker 2

So if you're looking for a job or like right, they can, how do you does it come on need?

Speaker 1

basis by the company. So it's need basis on the company. The companies are the ones that I, you and I had a conversation shortly, all right, where you thought I was looking for a different one, but you know ultimately yeah ultimately like at the end of the day, yeah, you know, I'm reaching out to companies that are hiring, I'm reaching out to companies that might need to have a need.

Speaker 1

like I was talking to somebody, um, that has a construction company close to where I live and if I name the name people would know the company, but they said we don't have a need until fall. So, guess what I'm going to do.

Speaker 2

I'm going to reach out.

Speaker 1

I'm not someone that's going to just pressure them to be like oh well, we should meet, we should meet.

Speaker 2

But do you have profiles of the people like in your website or like how do you have these people ready, like do they reach out to you too?

Speaker 1

How do you know to have these guys ready, like, do they apply somewhere? Yeah, yeah, yeah, so okay so let's say, for example, we have a position uh-huh right, and there's three people that apply, okay, and of those three, we believe two of those candidates would be perfect for this company and you send that to we send that to them. That person stays in the pipeline to put them somewhere where they feel like would align up with them.

Speaker 2

Does that make sense? Got you, so they're in the system now, once they apply it to something.

Speaker 1

Correct and, ultimately, like the. The main priority, in my opinion, is to get them jobs, to get it filled Right. In my opinion, I don't care if the company does it, if another staffing agency does it or if we do it, just get it filled.

Speaker 2

Oh, that's good man. Yeah, it filled. Well, that's good man. Yeah, yeah, that's good showing people love you all the way around 100 no that's good bro. Yeah, I had a friend that did something similar. That what you do, I I just you're probably on a bigger scale, though, like you're managing this way higher like what do you mean on the staffing side?

Speaker 1

or yeah, the staffing side okay the staffing side.

Speaker 2

Um, because he told me about where, like the jobs and like the websites and stuff like that. But you, I feel like you have it on a different scale for sure. Yeah.

Speaker 1

Well, it's a bigger company, for sure. So, um, and there's a lot of agencies out there.

Speaker 2

Yeah.

Speaker 1

You know. So, I think, ultimately go with the person and the people that have the experience.

Speaker 2

Yeah, the turnaround on jobs nowadays, though you know what I wanted to talk about and this was gonna fall in the realm.

Speaker 2

So there are some people that I'm noticing that they're getting paid pretty well, bro, but they don't appreciate what they have.

Speaker 2

Like they feel privileged to be there when other people are, like you know, fighting to just get in and open the open doors, bro, and I've noticed that, due to the nature of my job, that just they don't appreciate, you know, having a job, or or they they take it for granted, and there's people out there that, like, would take half that you know a pay cut to get what you're doing right now. And I feel like sometimes you miss opportunities to grow, and not just your job but in life, when you don't do the work well or you you're being lazy sometimes. I'm not saying give your life to the company, but there has to be some type of pride in the work you do. Now, if you're not happy there and stuff, I get it, but if you know you're getting paid well, you got the benefits. Now you still decide not to do things. I'm just that bothered me sometimes, and I've seen that way way too much than I need to, bro.

Speaker 1

Yeah.

Speaker 2

And this is why the the the job posting that I shared the other day. Sure, yeah, I want good people to get those jobs. You know what I mean.

Speaker 1

I want good people to get hired, yeah.

Speaker 2

I want them to appreciate that and have it feel like it's a blessing, because now you, como dijo mi mami en Spanish, you protege tu hueso. Because, like a dog, protect your bone. You know Somebody else is going to come and take it from you, so you got to protect it. But some people your family's from el salvador, yeah, where you from my wife's, from el salvador yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1

So it made sense why she's saying things like that, like really good, like mindset foundation things that are where you from mexico. Okay, w, born in mexico, raised here wait, you're not a madrid fan, right?

Speaker 2

nah what?

Speaker 1

if I like bad teams, I'd be a madrid you know, every time, every time, I want something. In regards to madrid, you had a field day this year with me, bro.

Speaker 2

You had a field day with me because of madrid, bro, I I remember. Don't we coming back? I don't want to hear that no more.

Speaker 1

Finally, you guys got a break, it's all good. No, it felt good. Yeah, it's all good, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2

So I'll block you if, if madrid wins you already know you damn no, but next day you'll be like damn, they're back so just wait, that's like five in a row, man, it's crazy.

Speaker 1

Five or six, how many was it?

Speaker 2

so much crap from the whole year, from everybody bro I thought they were gonna go far in the club world cup, but they didn't. I mean, we made it to semi-final but we got spanked madrid. Just, we're just not, we're not locked right now. We can't come back, though we always do, I have no doubt. But did you watch Mexico win the Gold Cup? Yeah, that was a pretty decent game, bro.

Speaker 1

It's not bad, you know.

Speaker 2

I was like I actually bet against them because I thought the US was going to win but, I, forgot that they didn't bring the whole squad squad, but there's this one, 17 year old.

Speaker 1

What is it? 16, 17, 16 year old dude mora yeah, he's dude, he's unreal good he gives me a lot of hope for the team.

Speaker 2

So good, bro. Yeah, I feel like something about when mexico is playing well. I just feel like things are good. Man, I don't know that. There's this, there's, you know, but I feel like mexico has fallen off, you know, from the last couple of years. Am I wrong In?

Speaker 1

the sense of like World Cup no no, and if you look back at it, the data shows man, Mexico will win the U15, the U16, the U17 World Cup, the U20 World Cup. They'll get very far in those World Cups, but once it becomes past 22 years old, they don't really compete at that level anymore. I don't know. If it's and my dad always says this, it's because they're making so much money. Now they're just chilling.

Speaker 1

They've gotten kind of comfortable kind of to your point about the job things. They're making so much money now. That was the dream. They've hit their dream. That was the capacity of their dream, right. And then the other one is like there's so much politics, is what he says, um, which I'm just glad that they're giving that 16 year old a chance. No, that was if they do more of that there's promise yeah there's promise.

Speaker 2

Yeah, because I I remember the last performances for mexico at the world cup have not been the best yeah but then again, though there's a lot of people that teams that have not competed competed at their level. Brazil has been. I love brazil since I was a kid and they have been so bad, dude, they're not good, disappointing. But yeah, we'll see. We'll see what happens, man. So um, but um, did you play?

Speaker 1

soccer yeah yeah.

Speaker 2

So when I was, uh, a kid and I'm not gonna gas myself up, but I'm gonna let you know what what happened? So when I was a kid and I'm not going to gas myself up, but I'm going to let you know what happened so when I was a kid, my dad played for semi-pro in El Salvador. Obviously not the greatest thing, but he played semi-pro. He was a game away. He lost a championship from going essentially pro, because you know the teams that they make the top of the leaderboards or whatever. So he was like 28, 27, 28 at that point and then afterwards, career went down. Well, I started playing soccer when I was young and I was playing travel ball in El Salvador when I was like 9, 8, 9, 10. So I was going to different cities to, like you know, just like the pro kids that do now.

Speaker 1

Yeah.

Speaker 2

You know the messies of the world and all that stuff. I was going around my country playing travel ball and when I came here I lost it all because I didn't have any guidance to continue to play soccer, and I think that's one thing that I always wish I had, like an uncle or somebody that loves sports and they're like no, you got to go play, you got to do something about it. I think I would have done something with my life when it comes to that. The only reason I say that's because I know the the level of all we did over there in saudi was play soccer. Bro, right, I?

Speaker 2

mean, that was the sport, that was everything, it's everything there is no, you know, you, you play everywhere, there's fields everywhere. You just, or you find a field somewhere you make, find a ball or make one. Yeah, yeah, it just you just make it happen. So when, here, dude, my level to the kids that I was playing with is just, it was different. But then I started getting into football and I love football. So now I love a lot of sports basketball, football, soccer and all that stuff. So I'm into all that, but yeah.

Speaker 1

Nice.

Speaker 2

Yeah, when did you start?

Speaker 1

I started late, man. I started 11, 12. I started really late.

Speaker 2

Yeah, I started really late. Yeah, yeah, yeah, what position did you?

Speaker 1

play Center back.

Speaker 2

Okay. You've got good center back size. I'm all right. Yeah, yeah, not bad, but did you play for Buford as well? Yeah, high school.

Speaker 1

Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I played Buford. Ironically, I was actually JV my first two years and I felt horrible about it.

Speaker 2

Really.

Speaker 1

Like really first two years? No, no, okay. So hear me out. Okay. And I had a friend I won't name him because then he'll feel attacked but he literally looked at me and he was like, dude, you got another two years because in buford you can't be a um, a senior, and not play varsity like they don't. They don't allow it. I don't know, it's like a beautiful.

Speaker 1

I think that's a thing in general okay yeah, yeah, and so I thought it was a buford thing and so they would not let you on the team unless you made it varsity.

Speaker 2

Right.

Speaker 1

And so in my head I'm like dude I want to make it a varsity as soon as possible.

Speaker 2

So then? So that way I'm locked in 100%.

Speaker 1

Well, and I just knew if I could play at that level, I could play college ball. Yeah, no brainer. And so my freshman year I played JV. I barely played in the beginning of season. Someone got hurt. And then I remember praying to God like, hey, just give me an opportunity. Am I thankful that he got hurt? No, but I'm thankful that the opportunity arised right. And so my sophomore year I played JV and then fast forward. I did well. They called me up my sophomore year. And then yeah.

Speaker 2

And then you started after that, yeah, and even into your varsity, yeah. And then you said you played college ball at somewhere I don't know.

Speaker 1

So I went to andrew college and then I went to emmanuel okay.

Speaker 2

So my, my, my brother has has a boyfriend. He he just got done playing at reinhardt. He played college ball at reinhardt.

Speaker 1

Yeah, reinhardt was good well, soccer football, what no soccer okay? Yeah, because football was unreal apparently no.

Speaker 2

No, I had a friend that played at football there, though soccer was good too.

Speaker 1

We played against them. Maybe my sophomore year of college her life college was good.

Speaker 2

He told me the life college was good at this point. Yeah, I guess now they are. I don't know, but he played um um at ryan hart and then he just got done playing.

Speaker 1

He was like I think I'm good okay, so you want to play semi or anything?

Speaker 2

well, I think you have to. He made a life decision. You know. Do I keep chasing this? You know he's tired. Who knows who's gonna lead him? Or does he concentrate now on his studies, because he already gave it a shot? You know what I mean. So I think that's what he came to like the decision he had to make.

Speaker 1

A life decision well, it's also like there's levels man there's levels you gotta know.

Speaker 2

Anybody could be really good in high school, yeah once you get to college, it's a different level. Yeah, I feel like that's where you start separating yourself.

Soccer, Sports, and Life Lessons

Speaker 1

Yeah, and then well, and you also see the foundation of other people's like basics right gotcha I have a belief like if you're good at the basics, you can be really good at just anything, but you have to be really good at the basics, because the basics are hard to do all the time.

Speaker 2

I feel that I had a coach that used to tell me Because when I played football I'm small for my size to play football, I guess kids in Gwinnett yeah. Freaking monsters and he was like you just got to have good technique, have good technique, and that stuck with me. So, that actually worked all the way in high school. I had really good technique and I got pretty decent. Yeah, I think you're right. That's a fair point. Praying sports man that's also another topic we can get into, but we're not going to try to take.

Speaker 1

Is there anything, brother, that you would like to to share to anybody or discuss here? Now you have, you know, the platform. Yeah, anything else that you'd like to?

Speaker 2

um, didn't really think about that question till now, um I guess, or any messages you have for people that are listening, man, because, uh, you know somebody's listening out there and I think you know something that you believe in and something you have to help you. I think that's I always believe in, that you know people have different stories and everybody's different yeah what works for me might not work for others, but it could work for, for, for other people. You know what I mean.

Speaker 1

Yeah, I think okay. So I think my belief system is always get around people that match your integrity, your characters and your values okay always, that's because, that'll always steer you back to where you're supposed to be.

Speaker 1

I think it's good to pour into people that you want to change, that you want to have saved, but in my opinion, you should have multiple counselors. You should have multiple people pouring into you so that you can have enough to pour into other people. But if you don't have that scope of friends that have the same morals, values and character, you might make bad decisions because of it, Right? And so I try to make sure that every one of my friends that I spend the most time with they match that.

Speaker 2

Right.

Speaker 1

Because I want to make sure I'm always going to be a good husband.

Speaker 2

Yeah. What is that saying? Show me your five closest friends and I'll show you who you are.

Speaker 1

Right yeah.

Speaker 2

No, that's good. And for the people you know that don't have that or maybe can't find that anywhere, a good place to start is church. Find, find a community um, get involved with other other people. I know that it's not easy for people to open up um, not everybody has a certain personality, but definitely um search for that. Don't be alone. You're not meant to be alone. So start looking for community. Even our YouTube community here, man, if you live in Georgia, we'll put you in places and chairs we can send you. I mean, yeah, just you know. Do you have a favorite quote that you go by? A favorite quote?

Speaker 1

I'm trying to think.

Speaker 2

Or a favorite Bible verse verse and we're, since we're christian man, do you? Have something or not even just the verse, but also, just maybe, a story in the bible so proverbs is the my favorite knowledge yeah, yeah, knowledge um.

Speaker 1

Let me double check.

Speaker 2

I'm pretty sure it's um yeah, not knowledge, dude proverbs is is beautiful. Um, and, by the way, with proverbs and wisdom, ladies and gentlemen, the bible says that wisdom begins with the fear of god. So, if you want wisdom in your life, fear the lord, but in a healthy way. We can get into a topic. That too about fearing the lord, but it has to be a healthy fear, not an actual fear of you just being scared, but more reverence and and things of that nature.

Speaker 1

So, yeah, I think so mine specifically, and it's because I read a book called um. What is the book called? It's called, uh, the power of the tongue okay right, and what it talks about is why your words are so powerful. There's a life and death in your tongue and what you say.

Speaker 1

So this verse always stuck with me and it's the reason why sometimes I just say affirmations, because they actually bring life, they come to life right, and this is no manifestation. This is literally from the Bible. It says Proverbs 18, 21,. The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit that's beautiful.

Speaker 2

Yeah, that's beautiful. Yeah, we just had that topic in at victory about two weeks ago wow about the power of the tongue.

Speaker 2

Yeah, and I'm working in that area and I'm not afraid to admit this and speaking more life into my, into my life, because I I don't know if you know the amount of extent of health issues that I suffer from, but because of my health issues, there is times where I always feel and I speak maybe death around me, like, oh, I don't know if I'm gonna be okay or I don't know if I'm gonna be good. You know, I feel like when people in the past were like really strong mentally, they've always said if I'm going to be good. I feel like when people in the past were really strong mentally, they've always said, no, I'm going to be all right, I'm going to be good, god will do it. I feel like I need to work on that and I've been working on that because we shared.

Speaker 2

that same Bible verse was shared at church about two weeks ago and I was like you know what? I'm going to start practicing more of that. But I want to practice it when I'm not right, when I don't feel good, when I'm at my lowest.

Speaker 2

It's good to say when you're good and you're feeling, you know, but it's when the storm comes and you're not feeling the best and you're struggling and applying the word. That's when I pray to the Lord and I'm like give me the strength, then I want to be strong, then, Right, Because I want to believe that I'm going to be okay. I'm going to believe that I'm going to do right. Right, I'm going to believe Because prime example, and this is beautiful we were supposed to record a podcast episode about two, three weeks ago, same time on a Wednesday, and I didn't wake up feeling the best. But could I have recorded that podcast that day? I could have, but could I have recorded that podcast that day? I could have.

The Power of Your Words

Speaker 2

I just felt like what if I tell them to come, or I tell them at this time, but then I don't feel good. What if this, instead of saying no, I'm going to be okay, I'm going to be good, you know, and apply that to myself and I'm like I'm going to be okay, but in retrospect I could have still recorded. It's just I didn't want to one let you down or bother you, bother with your time, Um, even though I know you probably would have been. You know, listen another day. But it's just me trying to reaffirm like bro, keep practicing that. Yeah, Keep practicing. I don't think I've opened up about that in my channel or in my, in my podcast, but definitely that's something that I feel like I need to work and be more, be stronger when I'm weaker yeah, well, and to your point, uh, growing up, and we'll finish it off, I know um was like ultimately, like when I was growing up I was very negative person.

Speaker 1

I had the mentality of expect the worst. So you're not disappointed the, the spider-man quote. You seen uh the girl from spider-man. Have you seen spider-man yet I?

Speaker 2

have but so the last one, the lady, the. What's his name? I forgot her name, dude, it's not mj. But the last one, she was like I, I don't expect them, but yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, she said something similar to that. That's what reminded me.

Speaker 1

So that was my mentality back then and this is just a young alan until I realized like that's a bad mentality to have, you're expecting negative and I feel like if you expect it you're going to get it right. Your expectation kind of breeds that, and so until I was exposed to the Bible, until I was exposed to school of discipleship, until I was exposed to small groups, I didn't understand that the truth is you speak life into your life right, Like God is already giving you that.

Speaker 1

The power of the tongue, that power of the tongue, yeah, so I'll send you that, the power of that power of the tongue. Yeah, yeah. So I'll send you that book, but it's literally verses all over the bible about the power of the tongue.

Speaker 2

Send it to me yeah, I need, I need, I need to read more about that in myself and I think that's one of the things. And I'm not the type of person either that, like I will consider myself weak, but I do have weaknesses and I'm that that might be one of them where I'm not feeling well. It's hard to you know, to see the light and to see the near future Like I'm going to be okay, I'm going to be all right. You know you forget about what God has done to you and what he has gotten you through, that you just fall back into that cycle, and that's what the enemy wants from you.

Speaker 2

You know, he wants to hold you in that place every time. But I'm getting better. You know it's a, it's a, it's a walk. You know this christianity man, it's a walk, it's, it's a process. It's tough to walk. People think that we just do it because it's so. There's only benefits, bro, if anything. There's more wars, wars and battles going on here than anywhere else. The only difference is you have somebody that has overcame it. You know, yeah, and you're fighting from victory, not for the victory, so we'll leave you guys with that.

Speaker 1

How does that sound? Yeah, Sounds good man.

Speaker 2

Yeah, ladies and gentlemen, thank you guys for watching, thank you guys for listening today. I think it was beautiful conversation. Time flew by fast, bro. Uh, I love doing this man. I enjoy doing this. Yeah, I saw. Yeah, I saw this coming hey, but I did, I really did.

Speaker 1

I was like, yeah, two yappers same room an hour yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, no, hey, listen, I was telling my wife about it the other day two yappers same room.

Speaker 2

It's about to happen hey, I want you back on here, man I think there is a, and I mean it was honestly. I think you have a lot of wisdom to provide to the world and I think if we come back and talk more about the bible and our experience, you know, in life and things of that nature, I would love to to share that more to the world and to other men and other women out. You know, listening to us.

Speaker 1

So let's do it let's do it.

Speaker 2

Yeah, ladies and gentlemen, thank you guys for watching another episode of the cg podcast. Uh, thank you, brother, for coming in. Um, don't forget to like, comment, subscribe, don't forget to rate the channel. You can listen to this podcast and all the audio platforms. You can also watch this video on YouTube in 4K quality. So if you guys want to do that, go ahead to the YouTube channel, like, comment and subscribe. And we're going to keep coming with the bangers man, with the good podcast episodes, with the genuine and organic podcast episodes. So you know we'll touch somebody in this earth. You know what?

Speaker 1

I mean Leave a legacy. Thank you for coming, brother. Yes, sir, of course, thanks for inviting me. All right, man.

Speaker 2

Take it easy, brother. Yeah, Bye guys.